I am not a toucher. The most common thing I shout at my dogs is, “NO TOUCHING!” Granted this is usually after they have tried to knock my feet out from under me from behind or when they have decided my face isn’t nearly clean enough. I will hug friends if somebody has died. I hug my son. My daughter isn’t big on hugs either, but we hold hands a lot.
Customers like to hug, pat on the back and do other types of unnecessary touching. I find it disturbing. I brought you food, I don’t think that necessitates a hug. In the end I go all stiff and let them have their way with me. My favourite is the man who waits until my hands are full then offers me the tip, which he helpfully puts in my apron. Buddy…really.
Jamie is a toucher. At least once a week Jamie gets all up in my grill and dance-humps my leg. She was full of touches tonight. Everytime I looked out in the dining room she was touching a customer…rubbing some old guy’s shoulder, touching a woman’s back, caressing a couple’s table. I finally told her to stop manhandling the customers. She said it makes people feel more welcome and happy and they tip better. At the end of the night she made $4 more than I did and I didn’t even have to bend over in front of anyone.
What’s your feeling on this? Do you like servers who touch you? Does it make you feel welcome or do you wonder if they’ve washed their hands lately? Do you tip more or do you hand them a five and tell them to bug off? My feeling is ‘I’m here for a meal not a mauling’, but am I in the minority?